Four years ago or so was the time when all my friends my age started
getting hitched. Now my Facebook page is lousy with pictures of newborns
and soon-to-be moms. I've noticed a few trends amongst my peer-parents
lately:
Not learning the sex until the baby's born. My theory
on this is that there are no surprises anymore and we know everything
about everything five seconds early. While there is probably an app that
tells you what kind of kid you're going to have, I know a lot of
soon-to-be parents my age who decide not to learn whether they're having
a boy or a girl until it's born. I think it's that one last sweet
old-fashioned surprise to enjoy before they endure lifetime time of
horrifying old-fashioned surprises or new-fangled types of surprises
which aren't really surprises at all.
More traditional names. In 2005 some of the most
popular baby names were Madison, Tyler, Caden, Jaden and Kaylee. My
friends are giving their kids names like Nora, Hannah, Lucia, Catherine,
Josephine and Jack. These names aren't better or worse than earlier
names (unless the name is "Claire," in which case it's the best name of
all), but it's interesting to see this swing. I wonder if it's because
kids my age grew up liking certain names, and other trendier names came
along but by the time we got of child-bearing age, the original favorite
names became slightly exotic again.
An okayness with the epidural. I haven't exactly done a
lot of investigative reporting on this ("So WHY exactly did you decide
to go for less horrible pain as opposed to more?") but I when I ask
friends whether they're going for the shot, they say "Yes" with an
intended "Doy, obvs" attached to it. My theory is that a lot of women a
few generations older than us either didn't do the epidural or had one
experience without it and one experience with and don't understand why
on earth you'd opt for more horrible pain instead of less, and have been
whispering to the younger generation: "Go for the shot." Doy, obvs.
Again, these observations are loosely-based and involve large sweeping
generalizations that I probably made while I was drunk. But have you
noticed any of these trends yourself, or anything else that's a little
different about this new wave of new parents?