Today is the day to do it in good health.

Mrs. Zulkey.com Closes Out the Year with Love

Dear Mrs. Zulkey.com,

Do you believe in soulmates? In other words, should you settle down with a man who will do right by you but you're not necessarily "lovin'," or do you wait for the guy who you have unbelievable chemistry with, but he may never come around?

Signed,

Damn Krimany Connections!

Dear One,

Yes, I believe in soulmates. But what you're asking about is a sole mate, that one person out there with whom you think you were meant to be. No, I refuse to believe in that. There are over six billion people in this world. According to the sole mate theory, only one of them is for you. Now what are the odds he's at the other end of the bar at your local watering hole, let alone at your school, at your office or even in your county? What if he's a piano tuner in Jakarta? And what if he doesn't believe in sole mates and is already married with four children?

But a soulmate? Now you're talking! That's that fellow who knows you through and through, your vulnerabilities, your flaws, your self-doubts, your ambitions. He's the one who knows how to support you in your disappointments and losses. Most likely you laugh together, and if you're lucky, he's the one cracking the jokes. He's long term. You can be open with him because you trust him. It's much, much deeper than sexual chemistry. Most good marriages are between people who are best friends. You can call him your best friend if you will, but that guy is your soulmate, Kiddo.

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all.

Mrs. Zulkey

That is a good as note as any to close out 2005. Zulkey.com will be taking a Christmas and New Years break and will return on January 3. In the meantime, peruse the diary archives or the latest and greatest sections. Or, check out my newest favorite site. Happy holidays to everyone and be good. Thank you for reading and for keeping in touch.

Oh, and if you have a question for Mrs. Zulkey.com, her inbox will be open through the holidays.